With my birthday comes the knowledge that I have been working on my blogs for a year now. I came on here to reflect and write about the past year of goal completing, however, my mind is jumbled with birthday fun. Of course, I wasn’t going to do anything (hello…have you met me?) but I didn’t get out of it this year. Kristen planned a party and we went to…wait for it…The Hen! What fun we all had…you can see from the pictures yourself…
See?! Fun was had. I am so blessed to have such amazing people in my life that would drive through the cold snowy night just to come celebrate lil ol’ me! Love to you all!
I have some of the best friends a person could ever have. If you and I do not share the same set of friends, I might have to feel sorry for you. Some of my friends I speak to almost daily. Some I speak to once a month or so. Some only a few times a year. And each time, without fail, my friends make me smile. Whether we are fighting over celebrating my birthday, laughing about a website we both love, or catching up on the past year that flew by too quickly, I am always in good company. Be jealous.
I bought my house a year and a half ago. Since then death has popped up a few too many times and I’d like to take a moment to reflect on that matter and those that have passed.
.Orion. He was a boy that loved wholeheartedly. He was funny, charming, and all things girls grow up and hope to find in a soul mate. We didn’t have a romantic connection, more like a big sis/lil bro kind. He loved to write music. He used to write a song and immediately come over and play it for me. He was greatly talented. A poor decision took his life.
.Ted. He was supposed to be my uncle. He was the love of my Aunt Erica’s life. Her teenage sweetheart. They lost touch. They each married and had 2 kids. They found each other again. They were engaged. He quickly became a part of our family and our hearts. He died of a heart attack on a road trip with her.
.David. We met many years ago. We hung out often back then. We’d share secrets. We talked endlessly of parenting, insecurities, and the loves of our lives. He came to me for advice on several occasions and gave me advice if I needed it, and sometimes when I didn’t. He gave great hugs. He died while playing basketball.
.Butch. Firndale Village brought us together. Countless Sunday dinners. He is the sole reason I learned that I love pulled pork. He was a very good friend to my mother and Dan. He helped her out when Dan was too far away to be there. He always had a smile on his face and a joke to make. Another heart attack. Another life cut short.
.Kylene. I met her during her freshmen year of high school. We taught together. We laughed together. We cried together. We raised our daughters together. I held her hand during hard times. She made my laugh through mine. She was the type of person who could light up a room with her smile and laughter. She was a really good friend. Recently she didn’t wake up.
Death. It’s everywhere. You can’t hide from it. It will get you. All you can do is hope you are ready.
With this comes one fact. If you don’t have a school age child you won’t understand. If you do, you probably want to pull out your own hair as do I. School age children = NO MANNERS! They instantly start chewing with their mouths open and playing with their food. It’s so gross. GROSS!!! If your children are not yet of school age, try and stop it from happening. You will fail. And I will welcome you to the club.
It is. If you don’t know what I’m referring to, you must have not grown up yet. I envy you. A few inevitable truths about growing up…
1. Bills multiply. I do not know how. I just know they do. The older you get the more bills you have. And they grow in amount. You go from paying a $30 water bill in an apartment to a $150 water bill in a house.
2. Friendships die down and they change. You fight against it. You try and hold on. You try and reach out. But slowly, they fade. You can tell people how important they are and how much you love them but life gets in the way eventually. Friends get married and get new friends. Friends stay at home more to offset the debt from the new grown up bills. Friends move. Friends pass away. Priorities change for people. You can’t stop it, friendships don’t usually last forever. Love the moments when you have them and cherish them when it’s over.
3. Gray hair. I have one. More to come.
4. You ache in ways you didn’t know existed. There was once a time I would go out and dance all night long and feel the energy of that vibe still the next day. Now I feel the soreness in my feet, my legs, and my back. However, it hasn’t stopped me yet. Hopefully, it never does.
Toys-R-Us had it right all along….so did Peter Pan.