Monthly Archives: August 2011

Who is having the best day?


I’ve had two friends stop by and visit, one planned, one a surprise. One brought flowers, a hug, and powerful encouraging words. One brought scentsy and understanding. Between flowers and scentsy. my house smells amazing!

Despite some rocky times on the horizon (it’s my blog, I can be vague), my heart is full of love and joy. What more can I ask for in life?

Well…. a job would be nice.

Oh yeah, I got that too 🙂

Out with the old, in with the new. Life is changing and I couldn’t be more excited.


A fork in the road.

Sometimes in life, you travel with a companion. Then you come to a fork in the road. Up until this point, you have traveled together, sometimes for a short time, sometimes years. You’ve weathered storms, embarked upon path’s you may have never chosen if you were alone, and shared many stories and laughs along the way.

Here you are. A fork. A decision. Do you continue to travel together? Do you go separate ways and see what life has in store for you?

Traveling together seems the easy choice. It’s what you’re used to. It’s comfortable. It’s a way of life for you if you truly love that person.

However, going separate ways gives you a chance to appreciate and notice parts of life’s paths you may not have your eyes open to seeing. It may be a scarier adventure, but sometimes you just know it’s time.

Going down separate paths doesn’t mean you hate that person, or even dislike them (although, sometimes it does mean that, and that’s okay too). It can simply mean you have another adventure to take, one that doesn’t include them as such an influential part of your journey.

And who knows, your paths may cross again soon and you’ll find yourself back in step with them like separating never happened. You can tell them about the journey you had while they were away, and listen to their journey.

Either way, it’s your life. It’s one big chose your own adventure story. You might not know the outcome, but you get to pick the path.

Inspiration for the day!

Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.

Meet me at the cornfield. 1 hour.

Ok, replace corn field with Ridgecrest Community Park. It’s where we always end up anyway. No surprise this was the locations my friends decided to gather to mourn one of our own. Although I rarely have the opportunity to see these friends I’ve known before I could even ride a bike, we’re the type of group that will drop everything when push comes to shove. Tonight we did just that. We all showed up to the same spot we’ve been going to for years, with beer we bought legally (ah, the good ol’ days lol), and hugged.

I hang out with many people, from many groups. I have my core group of friends, a few random here-and-there friends, and my childhood friends. And I love each of them so very much!

I spent a good portion of the time with my old school friends reminiscing and catching up with 2 wonderful people. I truly needed that.

Sadie and Brandon, if you ever stumble upon my blog and read this, I love you both tremendously! Life would not have been the same had I not had you both in it. I don’t even want to imagine that! Thank you for the years and years behind our friendship and of course, the years to come. From the bottom of my heart, I truly love you both!

Anyway. Moral of the story. I have friends. I love them. If you are reading this you are probably one of them. And I love you for it.

Yes, I’m simply rambling about love now. However losing a loved one will do that to you. So don’t blame me. Just accept my love 🙂

My advice.

I think of this blog as a way to leave a piece of myself behind for my kids. They will get to log on and read my thoughts, feelings, and emotions anytime they want. I hope they find comfort in my words and feel like I’m there, saying it to them. I hope they feel my arms around them. There’s so much I would want to tell them, but here’s what I can think of off the top of my head…

1. Events will take place and people you don’t like might be there. Try to be the bigger person. Sometimes that means pretending they aren’t there. Sometimes it means avoiding the event so you don’t say things you will regret. Either way, figure out which one is the high road for you, and take it. They aren’t worth getting upset over, that’s why you aren’t friends with them.

2. Try new things. Don’t be afraid of change. Branch out. You only get one chance at a great life, make sure to make it count. This includes food. I haven’t raised my kids to love food, I hope one day they find out how great it can be.

3. Negativity is easy to hold on to. Continually practice the art of letting it go and only remembering the good. You will find greater peace this way.

4. Believe in something. Believe in God. Believe in a higher power. I don’t care what it is. But believing in something greater than you is a useful tool in dark times. Dark times will happen. Having some sort of faith can help you know you will get through it. Do your best to believe in yourself as well.

5. Friends will come and go. So will love ones. Let yourself feel the heartache. This is how you know it was real. Do not dwell on it, however. Find the lesson to be learned (yes, there is always a lesson) and move on. Greater things always await you. If you are stuck dwelling, those things will pass you by.

6. Your opinion matters. It may not be the same as other’s, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t count. Some people don’t know this, however. Hopefully one day they too will understand it though. Don’t be silenced.

7. Do not be judgemental. Everyone has a reason for acting the way they do. Sometimes it’s taught. Sometimes it’s a defense mechanism. Sometimes it’s simple ignorance. However, it’s not your place to judge them for it. Always give grace.

8. You can only hold yourself accountable for your actions. No one made you do it (whatever the “it” is in question). Don’t push the blame. Be humble. Admit you made a mistake. That’s how you grow.

9. Find a reason to laugh every single day. Whether it’s a tv show, comic strip, joke, or youtube video. Laughter is out there. Make sure to get as much of it as possible. It truly is the best medicine.

10. Give as much of yourself as you can to those in need. Whether it’s a bag of food on the doorstep of a loved one, donated toys to children less fortunate, or helping a friend with a large task (even moving, ugh, it sucks), there’s always a way to give. It not only makes you a better person, it humbles you and gives your life more purpose.

11. Every day is an opportunity to make someone smile. Be kind. Hold a door open for a stranger. Wave at a neighbor outside. Be there for a friend. Sit with a new student at lunch.

12. Get to know yourself. Reflect. And be comfortable with change. Just because you had an opinion on one side of the fence, doesn’t mean you have to stick to it.

13. Never stop learning. Try new things. Read books. Develop new skills and hobbies.

14. If you love someone, tell them. You may not get another chance.

15. Question the rules of society. Follow them if it makes sense. Challenge them if it doesn’t.

Ok, that’s it for now. Savannah and Jo, know without a shadow of a doubt, I love you more than words can express. You are my everything.

Harry Potter.

I came here to blog about my thoughts regarding this magical topic. However, I’m failing to find the words. Only those who follow the series would understand, but it’s the rest of you I am pleading to.

Find a way to see this final movie, preferably in 3D.

Minus the Harry Potter aspect, it is the most visually stimulating movie I have ever seen. The 3D was incomparable to any other movie out there. Like if movies could talk it would get in a verbal fight with other 3D movies and all it would have to say is “schooled”. Other 3D movies would hang their heads in shame. There is simply no comparison.

Everyone, learn quickly what you can about the previous Harry Potter movies and/or books and see it asap. My heart is heavy for those who won’t.

Aside from the 3D aspect, it was a wonderful final movie. Of course, like any book turned movie, there are missing parts. But not enough for me to complain about. I think the creators hit the important parts.

With every new movie, it’s always felt like getting together with an old friend. You sit for a couple of hours and catch up. You see how they’ve grown. You learn what adventure’s they have been up to. I’ve truly enjoyed these visits with the characters from the series. You grow to know and love them. I’m sad our time has come to an end. The movie gave impeccable closure, but a part of me will always hope to see their faces again.

I cried, a lot (is anyone surprised?). I cried through the happiness, and through the sadness. The parts where my heart literally felt like it was breaking for my dear friends Harry, Ginny, Hermione, Ron, and their loved ones. I cried knowing it was over. I watched the entire credits. I wasn’t ready to let go, I don’t know if I ever will be.

If you haven’t begun the adventure into these movies and/or books, I hope one day something or someone comes along to change your mind. It’s not a movie about silly kids and their magic. There are kids, yes. There is magic, yes. However, those 2 things are nothing in comparison to everything else involved. It’s about unconditional love and friendship. It’s about heartache, maturing, hard decisions, and finding yourself. You become lost in a world you wish you could be apart of. You don’t question anything. There are no “why” or “what” questions. It just is. And you always wish for more.



Won’t work for free and neither should you.

I recently read an article about photographers and why they shouldn’t be asked to work for free. I’ve been saying this for some time! Shouldn’t we all be saying it?!

I have a friend who is a photographer, and I paid her to do my photo shoot. I have a friend who does skin care, I pay her too. I have a friend who does hair and I pay her as well. All 3 women have offered their services for free but I reject them. Not because I don’t appreciate their thoughtfulness, I do indeed. I’m happy to receive a friends and family discount.

If you have a business to run and profit from, you should be doing that. I don’t nanny for free, it’s my job. However, for my dear friends, I offer a discount. It’s a win-win. I make a profit, they pay for a service at a discount. Both parties are happy. Both parties benefit.

We live in the worst economic downfall our generation will (hopefully) ever see. People shouldn’t be working for free or asked to work for free. Your time is valuable. Do not be taken advantage of people! I get irate when I hear of other’s asking their friends to do things like this for free. If you have a professional service to perform, get paid for it, at least a little bit.

And Amy, if you are reading this, I will kick you in the shin the next time you offer to give free skin care. I will never accept. Your time is valuable. Your talents and knowledge are worth paying for, even at a discounted rate.

End of rant.