I think of this blog as a way to leave a piece of myself behind for my kids. They will get to log on and read my thoughts, feelings, and emotions anytime they want. I hope they find comfort in my words and feel like I’m there, saying it to them. I hope they feel my arms around them. There’s so much I would want to tell them, but here’s what I can think of off the top of my head…
1. Events will take place and people you don’t like might be there. Try to be the bigger person. Sometimes that means pretending they aren’t there. Sometimes it means avoiding the event so you don’t say things you will regret. Either way, figure out which one is the high road for you, and take it. They aren’t worth getting upset over, that’s why you aren’t friends with them.
2. Try new things. Don’t be afraid of change. Branch out. You only get one chance at a great life, make sure to make it count. This includes food. I haven’t raised my kids to love food, I hope one day they find out how great it can be.
3. Negativity is easy to hold on to. Continually practice the art of letting it go and only remembering the good. You will find greater peace this way.
4. Believe in something. Believe in God. Believe in a higher power. I don’t care what it is. But believing in something greater than you is a useful tool in dark times. Dark times will happen. Having some sort of faith can help you know you will get through it. Do your best to believe in yourself as well.
5. Friends will come and go. So will love ones. Let yourself feel the heartache. This is how you know it was real. Do not dwell on it, however. Find the lesson to be learned (yes, there is always a lesson) and move on. Greater things always await you. If you are stuck dwelling, those things will pass you by.
6. Your opinion matters. It may not be the same as other’s, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t count. Some people don’t know this, however. Hopefully one day they too will understand it though. Don’t be silenced.
7. Do not be judgemental. Everyone has a reason for acting the way they do. Sometimes it’s taught. Sometimes it’s a defense mechanism. Sometimes it’s simple ignorance. However, it’s not your place to judge them for it. Always give grace.
8. You can only hold yourself accountable for your actions. No one made you do it (whatever the “it” is in question). Don’t push the blame. Be humble. Admit you made a mistake. That’s how you grow.
9. Find a reason to laugh every single day. Whether it’s a tv show, comic strip, joke, or youtube video. Laughter is out there. Make sure to get as much of it as possible. It truly is the best medicine.
10. Give as much of yourself as you can to those in need. Whether it’s a bag of food on the doorstep of a loved one, donated toys to children less fortunate, or helping a friend with a large task (even moving, ugh, it sucks), there’s always a way to give. It not only makes you a better person, it humbles you and gives your life more purpose.
11. Every day is an opportunity to make someone smile. Be kind. Hold a door open for a stranger. Wave at a neighbor outside. Be there for a friend. Sit with a new student at lunch.
12. Get to know yourself. Reflect. And be comfortable with change. Just because you had an opinion on one side of the fence, doesn’t mean you have to stick to it.
13. Never stop learning. Try new things. Read books. Develop new skills and hobbies.
14. If you love someone, tell them. You may not get another chance.
15. Question the rules of society. Follow them if it makes sense. Challenge them if it doesn’t.
Ok, that’s it for now. Savannah and Jo, know without a shadow of a doubt, I love you more than words can express. You are my everything.